Russ, I am so very sorry. Whilst it is good to know that Mel is now at rest and out of pain, this doesn't counteract the pain and sadness that you must be feeling. If you need someone to talk to, you know where to find me. I know that the same will go for Chris too. Tea, biccies, and a listening ear always on offer.
Of course it will take time to find direction and learn to deal with this. But, as you say, you have friends and family who will help, and sooner or later you will find yourself smiling again, even if tinged with a bit of sadness. Be glad that you had the times that you did have with Mel, and know that the world is a better place for her having been here.
My thoughts are with you and all your family. Lou x x x